Can Anyone Help Me out with this?

Hi

I'm a 20 year old guy from North East, Uk. and i think i may be suffering some sort of depression, but i'm not sure if i'm right or not.

I was with a girl last year for around 8 months, towards the end of the relationship there was a time when i couldn't 'get it up' so to speak.i panicked and started having anxiety attacks all the time without warning. Ever since then ( nearly a year ) i haven't been able to get a substantial erection, i know its all in my head but it's horrible.

I smoke weed, maybe too much. but i don't drink a lot and i do go to the gym.

I can feel myself becoming more detached from my friends, not wanting to go out...and when i do the only thing on my mind is what i mentioned before..

The relationship ended very badly, with her starting a relationship with someone else and never speaking to me again... i think that may of hammered my self esteem coupled with the other thing, it just made me a wreck. any advice on who i could go see? doc or psych
Answer:
The fact that you have recognised this is a good thing. Go and see your GP. You may not need any drugs, but just a bit of counselling.

I would also stop smoking weed. Long term use can mess with your mind, and give you the kind of thoughts you are experiencing.

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I'm a girl but I would think you should see an MD first. Rule out any of that stuff. Hopefully, it's something simple to fix.

...as for the girl, did you ever explain to her that it had nothing to do with your attraction to her? She probably thought you didn't like her anymore.

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you need to go see a doctor because they can give you drugs to help overcome that. plus you need to make sure that is nothing seriously wrong.

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Stop using weed, keep on at the gym (I'm sure you've got some friends there), think positive about the good things in your life and in your past (forget the bad times!) and 'time' will heal the rest.

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Hi! I鈥檓 so sorry to hear you are feeling bad. Weed is really bad for anxiety and self-esteen (in some people), so try to cut it out. The following steps usually elimate anxiety and panic attacks:

1. Breathe properly - if you control your breathing, you control panic. As soon as you notice the signs of anxiety, check your breathing: breathe in slowly through your nose pushing your tummy out (to the count of 5 or so). Breathe out slowly and for a bit longer (to the count of 7 or so) through your mouth. Do not breathe rapidly or shallowly (in the chest area). This will soon restore the balance of oxygen and you will feel a lot better.

2. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy! CBT is proven to be the most effective thing for panic attacks and anxiety. It takes a bit of work, but it is super effective. (After 15 years of panic attacks, mine stopped completely). You can take a course for free online at: http://www.livinglifetothefull.com/elear... It has been funded by NHS Scotland and has had great results thus far.

3. Try relaxation exercise tapes (progressive muscular relaxation). They really help if you practise often enough. This site has instructions on how to do it without the tapes (and other useful info): http://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/resource...

I don鈥檛 know if these steps will help you unless you cut out the weed. Best of luck.

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